Before you make a new relationship move, career move or quit, make sure you stop right now and ask yourself again:" Do I know where I am headed? " " Do I have an idea what I am good at and what I really enjoy doing?
Sure some people risk it all on a dream or gut feeling but then again, there is some kind of clarity or confidence within about the decision. Like an internal guiding compass charting the way.
It's not really a matter of what your'e leaving but where are you going to. Leaving things behind has a negative focus but heading towards a desired and anticipated destination is a totally different paradigm when changing seasons and moving on.
"What do results of my personality tests say and have I taken any tests at all to find out my strengths really are?"
It doesn't really take long to review those results and findings (Jung typology and other tests are available online).
Just take about 2-3 hours over a weekend or free day to reflect on the results and what you have been most successful at the past year. Also ask yourself: "What has stirred the most energy änd inspiration within me during that time?"
Then ask yourself if the opportunities or the direction you are heading in your job or business quest matches in any way, those findings.
Of course if you're making a total career change, it should be mainly because you are going into something that inspires you or you have had an inclining towards. Granted, some have found themselves in areas or careers which they had no clue about. It all started off as monkey-see, monkey-do but a few years later ended up loving it and becoming masters of the profession.
However, the truth about success is most long- term successful people who enjoy what they do, chose what they wanted on purpose. Like John Maxwell says you will rarely ever find a successful person who says :"You know what, I have no idea how I got here. I just woke up one morning and wham! I found myself here. It's absolutely unbelievable, I don't know how or when it happened." Right!!!
You don't really want to be a person that just never knows what is going to happen next. How would you like to know what will happen tomorrow?
Well, that’s real easy, why don't you decide right now?
How about deciding what will happen to you in the next year?
"Well, what if I don't get it in the next year?"
Well what if you do and you’ll still be way ahead of where you are now? In any case, if you don't attempt it at all and stayed where you are now, tell me, where will you be next year anyhow? I guess in the same place with regrets or thinking what if. Fear of failure will limit you every time you let it. You can make a calculated risk which is wise but it's your move friend!
Okay already, what step do I take and how do I start?"Once again, know what you’re good at and have a passion about learning, reading or knowing about. What lights your fire and whose pain do you feel most and want to solve problems for?
These are indicators of where you belong.There is a place where you belong and that is where you will flourish. Your weaknesses flourish when you are in the wrong place.
Once you have a reasonable picture of your abilities, then look for a place where you can be mentored into what you want you want to achieve. This is absolutely vital. Once you've made a move in the right direction, like Steve Jobs said somehow the dots will all connect in the future.
Yes, you don't see everything right now but if the direction is right(and you know that by knowing more of yourself) and based on your strengths, it is inevitable that you will make progress.
I like to look at what I am getting into and try to imagine it 10 years down the road. That's long term thinking. Will you always be 100% accurate? That depends on a lot of things but at least you can judge whether you will really be happy by some major indicators involving that job offer, professional endeavour or career right now. It may really be wiser and you will thank yourself sometimes if you choose to earn little lower than you could in a job you don't like simply because you want to take the opportunity to learn from the best in your field at a certain job or position. The satisfaction and happiness of combining your greatest skills and strengths cannot be compared to a 500 dollar a pay check difference.